My boyfriend’s cousin to her sister’s 17-month-old son. Made me feel sad & annoyed. (via microaggresions)

Fuck  that! What does that even mean?!
I’ve been all over my mom to keep whatever she buys for soon-to-be-conceived baby Idina/Crosby gender neutral. I did pick up a onesie that was brown and said “handsome like daddy,” but I will put that shit on a boy OR a girl. I also have to keep telling her not to buy dresses. I had to tell her I would take them back or give them to Goodwill to make her understand that I was serious (and people wonder where I got my stubborn streak). I think she understands where I am coming from and what I am getting at, but I think she also really likes little girls. Not only do we not know what we are going to end up getting, but I’m not getting the kid anything where it’s going to matter what sex it is. Maybe a few things after we find out, but I want the kid to have free reign to choose hir own gender expression. Easier said than done, I know, but Joey and I both think they should wear and play with and call themselves whatever they want.
One hitch is that we did pick out gendered names, even though Crosby is a pretty fucking cool chick name. I guess if it comes up Idina can do a name change as long as hir middle name (Emmaline, named after a friend of mine, Emily, who committed suicide in high school, partly due to her sexual orientation) changes to Emile. I will ask nicely. AKA bribe them.